May 10, 2022 by Dean Bellefeuille


“You can make it, but it’s easier if you don’t have to do it alone.” – Betty Ford

No one is an island, and that’s particularly true as an Alzheimer’s caregiver. But even so, many family caregivers falter with regards to asking for or accepting the assistance they need. Because of this, stress is exacerbated as there is little or no time for self-care – a vital feature for any person in a caregiving role.

As Alzheimer’s caregivers, why are we so determined to address such an incredible undertaking independently? Here are several common reasons Alzheimer’s caregivers do this and why we should rethink them:

  1. Mom would never want someone else taking care of her. For most of us, we’d dread the thought of someone coming over to help us bathe. But having someone come and assist with housework and meals is an excellent way to introduce a brand new caregiver, working your way up to additional necessary services once the caregiver is known and accepted. Your word choice tends to make a huge difference as well. Having a “salon day” sounds far more inviting, for instance.
  2. It is too complicated to try and find a caregiver I can trust. With At Home Independent Living, we background check and fully train every one of our caregivers, confirming key character traits such as reliability, flexibility, kindness, and so much more. At Home Independent Living is insured and bonded for your additional peace of mind. We take the time to carefully match each senior with a capable and compatible caregiver. Lastly, if a senior’s primary caregiver is on vacation or ill, we will provide an equally qualified replacement caregiver.
  3. No one else could take care of Mom like I do. It goes without saying that you are an irreplaceable Alzheimer’s caregiver for the aging loved one you care for, but the objective of enlisting help is not replacement, but respite. A senior loved one with Alzheimer’s can benefit through the socialization provided by someone aside from yourself, while you gain the benefit of a much-needed break – ultimately allowing you to provide better care to the senior when you return.
  4. I am doing just fine on my own; I do not need a break. Simply put, science disagrees! A research study shared in the American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry revealed that a particular stress hormone was depleted in caregivers whose stress was chronic and prolonged – such as in providing Alzheimer’s care independently – while those who engaged just two days per week of respite realized a boost in the hormone as well as a brighter outlook and elevated mood.

Looking to explore in-home respite care for someone you love with Alzheimer’s? Contact At Home Independent Living, the top Syracuse in-home care company. Our fully trained, creative, experienced, and compassionate caregivers are here to help you reduce stress, improve life for the older adult you love, and provide you with the chance for self-care. Contact us online or at (315) 579-HOME (4663) to learn more about our services!