Category: Long-Term Planning

 July 17, 2024 by Dean Bellefeuille

Every victory – from tying their own shoes to preparing themselves lunch – is a feat for someone with dementia. These moments boost their confidence while reinforcing their sense of identity in the midst of the challenges they’re facing. One crucial aspect of caring for a loved one with dementia is to nurture these opportunities, preserving the dignity and joy of independent living. Here are a few tried-and-true strategies to help promote independence in seniors with dementia.

Create a Supportive Environment

Make sure the person’s home is safe and free from hazards. Minor adaptations, such as installing motion-sensor lights for better visibility at night and securing loose rugs, can protect against falls and boost confidence. Introduce tools that simplify daily tasks—like ergonomic kitchenware that’s easier to hold—to help them feel capable and in control. Adding clear labels on cabinets and drawers can also guide them more easily through their daily routine, reducing confusion and promoting independence.

Break Down Tasks

Lead into daily activities with creativity and patience. For example, if getting dressed becomes a challenge, try laying the clothes out in an order that makes it easier to navigate for the older adult. Opt for clothing with elastic waistbands or magnetic buttons to minimize frustration. Every small step they can do on their own is an encouragement to their self-esteem. Providing visual aids or step-by-step instructions for more complex tasks can also help them maintain autonomy.

Support Physical Activity

Healthy living involves prioritizing physical activity. Motivate the person to engage in doctor-approved exercises that are safe and enjoyable, like short walks in the park or light stretching at home. Adapt the intensity according to their ability, focusing on enjoyment and the feeling of accomplishment. Encourage regular schedules to help them build a routine that includes physical activity to boost both their mobility and mood.

Take Advantage of Helpful Technology

Take advantage of the many technological advancements that help support independence in seniors with dementia. Consider devices like GPS trackers and simplified phone applications that help manage daily life without overwhelming them. These tools offer peace of mind to both of you, ensuring safety while respecting their need for independence. Smart home devices that can control lighting, temperature, and security with simple commands can also enhance their living environment and provide additional comfort.

Lead With Empathy

Empathy is the name of the game in dementia care. Validate their feelings and perspectives, even when they differ from your own. Engaging in their reality helps reduce their stress and makes them feel valued and understood, reinforcing their sense of self-worth. Regular, open conversations can help build trust and make them more comfortable in expressing their needs and emotions.

Fostering independence for someone with dementia enriches their lives. Celebrate each victory, no matter how small it may seem. It can truly make a world of difference!

Our dementia care experts, serving Syracuse, Camillus, Clay, and the surrounding areas, have additional tips to offer along with skilled hands-on care to help the person you love live their best life. Contact us online or at (315) 579-HOME (4663).

 June 12, 2024 by Dean Bellefeuille

We get it. Exploring home care options for Mom and Dad is a daunting experience. There are so many options to consider, and so many new and unfamiliar terms to understand. Take, for instance, the care plan. It may seem like just another piece of jargon in a sea of confusing terms, but creating a care plan for seniors is actually one of the most important aspects of home care services. Here’s why: (more…)

 January 16, 2024 by Dean Bellefeuille

When we reach our senior years, we have spent decades investing in relationships with family and friends. These bonds are crucial to our quality of life, and when they are severed, it inevitably leads to feelings of deep loss. (more…)

 December 18, 2023 by Dean Bellefeuille

Caring for a loved one is often an all-consuming role. It requires so much of your time, focus, and energy that when caregiving ends, for any reason, it can leave you feeling lost. Other common feelings to expect when you are no longer serving as caregiver for a loved one include: (more…)

 March 14, 2023 by Dean Bellefeuille

What exactly is it that gets you up out of bed each and every morning? If you are a member of the sandwich generation, caring for both older and younger loved ones, your list is likely quite extensive! As the nest empties, however, it becomes important to redefine our identity and discover new ways to bring meaning to each and every day. In fact, the benefits of purpose for seniors are even more far-reaching than we once believed. (more…)

 April 20, 2022 by Dean Bellefeuille

Many of today’s seniors were raised during the Great Depression. They lived through a period of time when the nation was pinching pennies and cutting corners. Frugality was embedded in many of them very early on and often remains firmly in place for a lifetime. (more…)

 March 3, 2022 by Dean Bellefeuille

In a perfect world, our family interactions would all be positive and helpful. We would handle transitional times smoothly, cooperatively, and without any disagreement. As our parents grew older, it would be a seamless process to satisfy their needs today and their needs in the future. (more…)

 October 13, 2021 by Dean Bellefeuille

If you knew that a significantly better quality of life could be achieved for a loved one, you wouldn’t think twice about exploring that option. Yet one of the most beneficial types of care – hospice care – is one that family members shy away from, due to a range of common hospice care myths. (more…)

 June 4, 2021 by Dean Bellefeuille

When it comes to working together to ensure the needs of your aging parents are met, even the closest of siblings can find themselves in conflict. Emotions and stress levels are, naturally, running high. Add to that your past family dynamics and history, which tend to resurface during challenging times, and it’s easy to see how difficult this stage in life can be for each of you. (more…)

 April 21, 2020 by Dean Bellefeuille

Senior finance conversations can lead to a variety of arguments, heightened emotions, and misunderstandings. And for many of today’s seniors, who maintain a “Depression mentality” from years of saving for a rainy day and learning to “waste not, want not,” it can be hard for them to share access to finances with adult children, and to accept the need to spend some of those finances on caregiving needs. 

Talking with an aging parent about finances is most effective when started before the need arises, understanding it may take several conversations before an agreement can be reached. These conversation starters can help: 

• “Dad, in time, we’re going to need to make some decisions about the future. Now might be a good time to sit down together and go over your wishes and the financial side of making sure we can abide by those wishes.” 
• “Mom, I know you’re managing your finances just fine now, but what if something were to happen to your health that prevented you from paying your bills on time? It would be good to have a backup plan in place. Let’s sit down and come up with one.” 

• “Mom and Dad, you’ve always been so good at managing your finances and providing for us while we were growing up. We want to be sure to continue that legacy, and to understand how best to help you both meet your financial obligations if the time comes that you need some assistance with that.” 

It can also be helpful to share real-life scenarios of a friend or neighbor who was victimized by identity theft, or a story from the news about the changing economy, stock market drops, changes to tax laws, etc. This can jumpstart a discussion about your aging parents’ own retirement plans and any financial fears for the future, allowing you to come to a mutually agreeable resolution, such as talking with a financial advisor together.   

Most importantly, be sure to maintain a sense of respect, never attempting to “take over” your parents’ finances, but to provide the reassurance and peace of mind that their financial matters will continue to be managed effectively. Ask your parents for advice and include them in the decision-making process. Daniel Lash, certified financial planner at VLP Financial Advisors, suggests, “Tell them what you’re thinking about doing so you give them the power to tell you what they think you should do. It’s like they’re giving you advice because that’s what parents are good at – giving advice.” 

At Home Independent Living, the top providers of home care in Syracuse, NY and the surrounding areas, offers a free in-home consultation to help older adults and the families who love them understand their options for care, and to help mediate difficult conversations such as those related to senior finance concerns. Contact us at (315) 579-HOME (4663) for assistance.